Top 5 tips for choosing your wedding party
Choosing your wedding party
1. Choose your wedding party wisely
You will want to select people for your wedding party who will support you throughout the planning. They will be part of your team. You will spend time with your wedding party and they are donating their time for free. So think about it carefully, as once you ask it's hard to go back. Don’t just consider friends, think about your siblings and in laws too. Also be kind, some friends or family may not want to take up this role, try not to be offended.
2. Set expectations with friends and family up front
Some people may assume that you will have certain people in your bridal party, or that they will be part of your bridal party, which may not be the case. Don’t feel pressured into making decisions based on other people's suggestions. Someone is always bound to be disappointed but as long as you are happy with your decisions, that's what is important. Being part of your bridal party is a responsibility and an honour.
3. Me mindful of your wedding budget
Keep the budget in mind, as you may want to pay or contribute to the bridal parties’ attire, flowers, or even wedding transport, all this adds up. The larger the bridal party, the more details to organise.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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4. You are not obliged to reciprocate
Don't think just because you have been in someone else's bridal party that they need to be in yours! This is not the time to be returning favours.⠀
5. Create other VIP roles in your wedding
If you can’t ask all your special friends or siblings, consider some of them for other key roles on your wedding day, such as doing a reading at your church or civil ceremony. Or being an usher to show guests to their seats, or even create a special role just for them. It will show that you still want them to be involved.
How you decide to select your wedding party is entirely up to you. You may prefer to keep it small to one or two people or want to go all out with a full team of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Do what works for you.
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Natasha x
About the Author
Natasha is the founder and lead planner at Pearline Events, a London-based wedding planning business specialising in vibrant multicultural celebrations and dry-hire venues. With her background of over a decade of experience in Civil Service project management, she brings unparalleled logistics and problem solving skills, plus creative flair to create seamless, colourful weddings. Her work has been featured in numerous online and print publications.
Named after her late grandmother, 'Pearline' means precious, reflecting Natasha's belief that every love story is unique and deserves a wedding that reflects its true spirit and you. She helps couples fuse their cultures into an exquisitely elegant day, ensuring they arrive relaxed and joyful.
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